Ask Spry… Bridesmaid’s Dress Stress!

Hey Spry,

I’ve been arguing with my friend about my upcoming wedding next year (it’s not official yet). Anyway, she thinks the bridesmaids have to all wear the same dresses, and I don’t think they should.  Also, I’m thinking sapphire blue and lime apple are okay colors for my wedding.  I need an expert’s opinion, so I’m calling on Spry!

-Can’t Decide

Dear Can’t Decide,

First let me say congratulations on your upcoming marriage.  I’m sure you have lots of decisions to make, including the one about the dresses.  One of the first things that you need to remember is that your wedding is just that…  YOURS!  I’m not encouraging a “Bridezilla” moment, yet it is important that everything from the table settings to the wedding party’s attire, is catered to your liking.  Although I’m sure your friend wants to help, it sounds like her dress selection is more about what she wants, and less about your desires.  She needs to understand that her position is to offer constructive criticism, while supporting your wishes.

Although I’ve never heard of the color “lime apple”, I think I know what you mean (smile).  That, paired with sapphire, sounds really beautiful.  Just be careful with the accessories; that can get tricky. As for the actual design of the dresses, I agree with you.  Matching gowns is a long time marital tradition that needs to be thrown out the window!  Just like “one-size”, one style does NOT fit all!  Having different styles will give your bridesmaids an opportunity to wear one that is most flattering to their body types (and personalities).  Keep in mind, however, that there should be some form of consistency throughout the bridal party.  Whether it’s the length of the dresses or matching sashes, something should tie (pun intended) the ladies together.  Otherwise, it will look like you emailed everyone a color swatch and said “go for it!”; which could only end in disaster!

Whatever you choose, remember that just like a marriage, it’s good to have both similarities and differences.  I’ve realized that those are the ones that work best!  Good luck!

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